Long Time No PostAugust 20, 2008
Only because “cuckolding” isn’t so curious and new anymore. I put quotation marks on the word because like so many other descriptive terms it encompasses the many different ways couples choose to enact the fetish.
I notice a proliferation columns in Dan Savage these past months devoted to Cuckolding which means the more people into it the more variations there will be to play it.
I like that. I like it because I had trouble fitting myself into the “dominate woman who emasculates her husband” role that I’ve seen described so often which made me question the validity of our kink as cuckolding.
Quite a bit of time has passed since we first started out.
And I should explain how that came to be. My husband and I are kinky, we actually met through our local fetish/bdsm club, but as time moved forward and we “settled” into married life our sex became less frequent and more routine (blessed are the couple who can’t related). To top it off I started to work through some heavy boundaries I had because of past abuse. Poor Hubby had to find a way to save our kink, his kink, while giving me the space and control I so desperately needed.
Cuckolding was the perfect solution.
I have bouts of questioning my actions, my motives and morales but I balance them out with knowing my values, the reasons behind my actions (that they are the right ones) and strict protocals that remind my husband and I that it’s all about “us”.
Sounds very un-cuckoldy doesn’t it. Aren’t I suppose to talk about his small prick, his sexual inadequacies and my many other manly lovers?
But I can’t until I lay down the foundation that allows me to play that way. The love and the bond between my husband and myself.
I don’t think it would be cuckolding if he actually was inadequate, it would just be cruel.
I touched on the relationship between Hubby and I in this post. Next post I’ll muse on the relationships I have with my “boys” 🙂